Earlier this week on Reddit a user posted a photo of what they called "The Most Demanding 1st Birthday Invite Ever". The invitation was a page long list of what the mother of a one year old wanted – and didn't want – guests to bring to her child's upcoming party.
In case you haven't seen it (I'd be surprised, it went viral), here it is:
And a link to the original thread on Reddit can be found here.
I wrote on Today's Parent this week that unlike the majority of Reddit commenters, I don't have a problem with the mom being very specific about what she wants brought into her house, especially in light of the fact that there are only 4 fairly affordable items on the list. To me, the letter looks similar to a baby registry, something that new parents get pressured into making and is considered part of the experience when you have a new baby. I know my baby gift registry was over the top, surprising even to me as a fairly low maintenance person. Critics also say that the wording is rude, but if this mom has tried for the past year to rid her house of clutter, I can understand why she needs to make it clear that board books are banned.
But I believe that this letter – and our reaction to it – says more about us than the mother. Why is it we insist on showering babies and toddlers with stuff? If it takes a sharply worded letter to get the point across, then so be it. And besides, none of us were invited to the party anyway.